Non Violent Resistance Programme
10 Week Non Violent Resistance
"New authority" Parenting Course
If You answer yes to 2 or more of these questions.
The NVR programme will be of enormous benefit to you and your family.
Non Violent Resistance Issues for Parenting
Are you ready to commit to a 10-week Non-Violent Resistance Programme?
Are you the target for aggressive and violent outbursts from your child?
Do you engage in escalating arguments with your child?
Are you afraid of your child?
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells in your home?
Does your child damage property?
Is your child refusing to go to school?
Does he/she threaten suicide or self-harm?
Are all the other members of the family suffering?
Are you subjected to emotional, physical, verbal and financial abuse?
Do you and your husband/partner disagree on how to manage the situation?
Are you at your wits’ end trying to manage things?
Are you feeling helpless and alone?
Has your child an ASD or ADD/ADHD diagnosis that complicates matters?
Has your child a disability including an intellectual impairment?
Have you an adult child that engages in behaviours that challenge you in the home?
Free Information sharing phone call .
This will be a 30 minute no-obligation call between the two of us where we will share information in relation to your current challenges and situation. I will explain the NVR program format and expected benefits and outcomes. Together we can determine if the program would benefit you at this point in time. On deciding to work together you will be informed of upcoming programs, dates and times and you will be invited to to register
10 Week Non-Violent Resistance Programme (Individual families).
In-Person appointments
@ 7 Main St. Tralee, Co. Kerry (V92 HC0H) (Monday to Friday)
@ Dromkeen East Causeway Co. Kerry (V92X7P4) (Saturdays)
or Online sessions via Microsoft teams are available.
Option to choose venue is available at the booking stage
60-75 min sessions per Week/Fortnight
PowerPoint/Workbook (will be emailed)
Cost €65 per session on booking.
(costs include both parents & supporters as relevant to family context)
Next steps
Book a free 30-minute more information call
or
Book 1 or more NVR session(s)
Together we will:
- Addresses violent, destructive, and harmful behaviors.
- Support you to take a firm stand against violence, risk taking, and antisocial behaviours.
- Learn to hold back from physical or verbal violence.
- Help you overcome your sense of helplessness.
- Strengthen and develop your support network to help you along this journey.
- Increase positive parental presence in your child’s life.
- Provide you with practical strategies to resist violence and destructive behaviours. A powerful choice to make.
- Work to rebuild a healthier and more respectful relationship with your child.
- Rebuild your confidence in your parenting experience and abilities.
Programme outcomes:
- You will be equipped with skills and tips for resisting aggression and violence.
- Reduced aggression and violent outbursts.
- Less distressed child/young person.
- Peer (Parent) support network.
- Improve relationships between family members and the outside world.
- More confidence in your parenting and reduced sense of helplessness.
- Improved relationship with your child.
What other parents have said about the Non-violent Resistance/New Authority Conscious parenting programme
“Stick with it”
“Do it the best course I ever did for me and my family”.
“Was so good for my own well-being that I don’t have to keep everyone happy all the time everyone needs to deal with their own emotions, behind dad is ok, or being angry is OK, building resilience is for the best”
“My only regret was that I didn’t do this course years ago might even do this j course again because life is a journey, and I am everyday learning and sometimes forget so I will keep learning something new”
“Sometimes we get set in our old habits”.
“This course shows you how to build new good healthy ways 💕”
“You will learn to love your children even more as the techniques that will be given help you to grow closer to them”.
“Don’t think just do it. It will make you feel so supported and understood it’s fascinating and enjoyable and you’ll come away better equipped than you ever expected”.
“Sign up now. It’s good to chat or even just listen to other people in the same boat as you. You learn so much. Sometimes you just need to hear a different view to realise things”.
“I would recommend it to any parent; my journey has been so positive and an eye-opener about listening to our children”.
“Old habits are hard to change but once you do it’s so worth it, and the support you get from the class is fantastic”.
“What can I say this is the best thing that we have ever done for our family Margaret was just fabulous with sound practical advice We will never truly be able to thank her for all the help and advice that she gave us thank you from the bottom of our hearts we are truly grateful for you. ❤🙏 sending you so much love always” Noreen & Timmy Sugrue x x
“We would highly recommend doing this program it changed our lives for the better I’m so grateful it will be the best thing that you can do for your family 🙏🥰 it should be compulsory for all families”
“You have to be open to new ideas”.
“Fantastic course, Give it your full attention while doing it and practice, practice, practice because otherwise one could put it aside, afterward and forget ideas and principles”.
“There is great awareness to learn from going on this program. This program teaches parents about a toolbox that we can use as parents and also use for our kids”.
“This program is great because i learned different ways for dealing with situations and it got me to be more mindful about my reactions to my child. This program also taught me great awareness to talk more with my child and not shout and roar. I would recommend this course to anyone as its a great learning for parents and kids”.
“give it a go… it’s well worth the journey, Margaret and Sheila make you feel so welcome and valued”
“We don’t have a Hollywood home, all smiles and laughing all the time…But I am not afraid anymore, I know I can deal with this and we’re getting on OK” Although it does take practice, parents tell us they manage to develop a new habit to “press the pause button” and not respond to their son or daughter’s violence or threats of violence in the same way as they had before.
Many parents remark that their changes in how they respond to their child seems to lead to welcome changes in the frequency and intensity of their son or daughter’s aggressive and violent behaviour”.
Parents often refer back to their feelings of optimism and hope created during the first session when the programme was outlined: they talk about feeling encouraged by an approach which re-assured parents that while their child’s violence was not their fault, there was something concrete they could do (the elements of the Non Violent Resistance Programme described in this handbook) and that they would have the support of the practitioner throughout the Programme and of the support network. Parents are often encouraged to hear that the programme is a structured and brief intervention, lasting up to ten sessions, and involves parents in a respectful way” NVR Program Handbook
You are not alone.
“Once unheard of, parents are increasingly reporting violent attacks on them by their children, an urgent issue, say child experts”.
“We know from the research – that this is happening around the world, that it’s both boys and girls who are targeting mothers, fathers, grandparents, foster parents, adoptive parents,”. Studies show it is primarily women who are targeted, because it is mothers who engage in much of the parenting contact in families”. Parents feel alone and without support. They live in fear of the child, with cycles of escalation during conflict which can end up with abuse or intimidation.”
Last year, however, Rita O’Reilly CEO Child-Line reports, child aggression directed at parents came first in a study carried out by Parent line into the top 10 reasons for calls to its helpline. “This was anger and aggression in children, generally from about 11 and 12 years of age and upwards to adult children in their early 20s, but most typically from children in their mid-teens. These are shocking figures. Parents are saying ‘my child is shouting at me’, and ‘my child will not go to school unless I give him or her money’.
“Children are demanding, shouting terrible things, name-calling and not behaving as part of the family,” she reported, adding that the organisation has had reports about this type of abuse from parents “across the social spectrum” Child Line CEO, Rita O’Reilly 2020: cited by Áilín Quinlan
Dr Declan Coogan, who introduced the NVR program to Ireland in 2007 states “We began to hear parents saying they were afraid of their children,” he recalls, adding that the children involved were generally aged 12 and upwards, although research has highlighted cases of parents being afraid of children as young as eight. “We hadn’t come across this before. We began to see situations where some children were calling their parents’ names, threatening to harm parents, damaging property in the home or refusing to go to school. Parents were at their wits’ end. Usually, we’d look at things like addiction, depression or historic issues, but this is not the case in many of these families.”
The perceived shame and stigma around the problem often meant parents were reluctant to speak out about it, says Coogan, who last year published a book about the issue, Child to Parent Violence and Abuse – Family Intervention with Non Violent Resistance.
Coogan D. cited by Quinlan A. The Irish Times: 2020.
